Is it all that is needed or is it enough? John Lennon wrote a  song  called, “All You Need is Love.” But he also beat both of his wives, abandoned one of his children, verbally abused his gay Jewish manager with homophobic and once had a camera crew film him lying naked in his bed for an entire day. Years later, Trent Reznor from Nine Inch Nails wrote a  song  called “Love is Not Enough.” Reznor, despite being famous for his shocking stage performances and his grotesque and disturbing videos, got clean from all drugs and alcohol,  married one woman , had two children with her, and then cancelled entire albums tours so that he could stay home and be a good husband and father. One of these two men had a clear and realistic understanding of love. One of them did not. One of these men idealized love as the solution to all of his problems. In our culture, many of us idealize love. We see it as some lofty cure-all for all of life’s problems. Our movies a...